WTF-What’s This Frustration? Dealing with Unexpected Setbacks
We all know what it’s like to have a project in motion on Friday and arrive back in the office on Monday morning to that unexpected setback. WTF!
The frustration that arises when a situation seems to be halted or moving way too slowly for our liking, can be incredibly challenging. Blood pressure rises, body temperature heats up, palms get sweaty, and we slip into fight or flight mode. It’s easy to become overwhelmed, anxious, and even angry when things don’t seem to be progressing as expected. However, there are several strategies that can help you manage these difficult feelings while staying focused on your vision.
One of the most important things to remember when dealing with frustration is to REFRAME the situation. Rather than focusing on the obstacle, focus on a solution. Rather than how halted the project seems, focus on the progress that has already been made or the lessons learned so far. Reframing can enable you to see new possibilities and reduce feelings of hopelessness.
Another important strategy is to SET REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS. While it’s natural to want things to go smoothly and happen quickly, some situations take time to resolve, and most projects have occasional setbacks. Setting unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and more frustration, so it’s important to be patient and keep a long-term perspective.
PRACTICING SERENITY is also key to managing frustration. Mindfulness and meditation techniques are effective for staying calm and centered while the situation shifts. It’s also important to note that your brain is most creative when it’s calm, not hijacked in fight or flight. Focus on the parts of the project you can control, your own attitude, the questions you are asking yourself and take specific steps to move the situation forward.
SEEKING SUPPORT is another important approach for managing frustration. Talking to safe friends, team members, a coach or therapist can provide valuable support and perspective during times of stress. They may be able to offer new insights or help you see the situation in another way.
Finally, TAKING ACTION can be incredibly empowering when dealing with frustration. Identify steps you can take to move the situation forward, no matter how small they may seem. Even small steps can help build momentum and create a sense of progress.
Managing frustration in the face of a stressful situation is challenging, but it is achievable. By reframing your situation, setting realistic expectations, practicing serenity, seeking support, and taking action, you can manage your feelings of frustration and stay focused on your goals. Remember to be compassionate to yourself and your team and take things one step at a time. With the right strategies and support, you can overcome any challenge and emerge stronger on the other side.
